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Well, that was a dramatic week. Jacques has now left the villa. I’m glad he’s gone, and I wish him love and luck on his healing journey for the sake of whoever he next dates.
I’m also glad that Paige isn’t waiting for him like he asked her to and that she’s cracking on with Adam. I was concerned about the fact that ITV had brought him back in, given that last time he was on the show Women’s Aid had to make a statement about his gaslighting and emotionally abusive behaviour. But, so far, he appears to be a changed man. Either that or he’s learnt how to play the game for the cameras. For now, he seems to be treating Paige well, so we will continue to cross our fingers.
The person we really need to talk about this week is Luca. I can see why he’s head over heels in love with Gemma because she’s brilliant, and while we all want someone who absolutely loves and adores us, there’s something about the way that he is with her that’s way too much.
He’s intense, and we’ve seen Gemma pushing him away and being very controlled with him as a result. She sets her boundaries well and has been clear that she’ll get the ick if he’s too keen, but we’ve now witnessed multiple occasions where he’s become angry and stressed about Gemma talking to other men (big red flag).
Luca’s insecurities plague his relationship with Gemma. I think he thinks she’s too good for him and it’s turning him crazy. Does he love her or is he just obsessed?
He physically pushed her away when he returned from R&R to find her talking to Adam.
At the end of the week, not long after he told Gemma that he was in love with her (to which she said ‘stop it Luca’ several times before telling him she loved him too), we saw him raging at the movie night revelations.
In my red flags of the week section last week, I mentioned that Billy was flirting weirdly with Gemma, calling her a liar when she said she wasn’t flirting with him. Billy was flirting with her; Gemma was not actively reciprocating in a boundary-crossing way. Billy’s ego told him she was flirting – it was all in his head, but he hastily convinced Luca that he was right. Luca’s reaction was a red flag. He blamed Gemma for Billy’s actions, taking Billy’s word over hers and making out as though it was her fault that Billy tried it on.
This whole ‘A guy wouldn’t try if he didn’t think he had a chance’ line is so incredibly misogynistic. Men who have no chance try it on with women way out of their league all the time. It’s vile to hold a woman accountable for a random man thinking that he has a chance with her.
Luca said he didn’t want to speak to “that bird again” and “Bring me a bird in and watch.” Because women are objects you can use when you’re angry, right? He’s turned very quickly over something small, and we’ve seen this several times from him. It’s ironic for him to have such rigid views on loyalty considering how enthusiastically he was encouraging the boys to cheat in Casa. As Gemma said, she knows where her head is at and it’s on her to manage it if another man flirts.
You either love her or you want to control who she speaks to and seek revenge when you feel miffed – the two are mutually exclusive. Love and control don’t go together. Possessiveness and obsessiveness are not signs of love. I’m not worried about Gemma though, despite her age she does a good job of keeping him at bay, but the point is – she shouldn’t have to be managing the emotions of an intense older man who is way too needy, clingy, and controlling.
If you’re in a relationship and you’re continuously accused of flirting with people who you haven’t flirted with, told who you can and can’t talk to, and you find yourself trying to appease your partner’s paranoia all the time then I would highly recommend getting some support and talking it through with a trained professional, you can contact the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247.
Red and Pink Flags of the week
- At the start of the week, we saw Tasha crying in bed with Billy explaining that she’s worried that she’s missing out on some fun with him, by the end of the week she was asking Andrew to officially be her boyfriend. I don’t think Tasha is a bad person, but I do think she is very conscious about what the audience thinks about her and so she is playing a game, which is not a terrible thing considering she’s on a gameshow, but because Andrew’s feelings are so clearly genuine, it feels sad to watch him fall so completely for someone who doesn’t appear to be entirely sure about him. Her ambivalence is a pink flag.
- Luca has been odd with Tasha all week. Having a go at her for crying about being in the bottom three and then laughing and shouting ‘Tasha WHO?’ during movie night. His behaviour has been unkind and thoughtless, and I think Gemma has seen it as a pink flag.
- I’m so disappointed in Dami. All he had to say was sorry! But no, he decided to go down the route of downplaying what happened with Summer and accusing her of being fake. We all know that he led her on, he could have admitted it and Indiyah would have still taken him back, but he chose to lie to Indiyah and gaslight Summer instead. Such f**kboy behaviour.
- Ekin-Su should have admitted to her grope with George. Davide has a point – it’s not that she did something, it’s the fact that she is lying about it that creates the issue. But the boys’ reaction to her very minor indiscretion is giving double standards. In fact, the boys’ reactions to all the girls’ behaviour in casa is disproportionate, the girls are being judged way more harshly for doing way less than the boys (absolutely no different to real life!).
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