I've fallen for a married man who never wants to be physical with me

DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE been romantically involved with a married man for six months.

He’s 63 and I’m 61.


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He makes me feel so special when we are together but I’m puzzled because he never wants to take things further physically.

He says his marriage is over but he holds back beyond a peck on the cheek.

Somehow his actions don’t add up to his words.

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He says things like: “I love your personality, your style – everything about you. It’s like I’m being sucked in.”

I’m also happy to take things slowly but I wonder if there is an issue physically.

He always comes up with an excuse why he can’t take things further.

Taking it slowly is fine but surely he would want to get together with me physically if he were serious?

DEIDRE SAYS: He might well be worried about his performance in bed.

Perhaps he has had sexual issues with his wife and is worried the same could happen with you.

Alternatively, he may be feeling guilty about cheating on his wife and knows that once he steps over this line there is no turning back.

But it would be better for you if he were free to have a relationship, so perhaps it is time to lay your cards on the table and tell him what you are looking for.

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