DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband’s drinking is tearing my family apart and now my son’s school knows about it.
The worst part is that he refuses to admit that he even has a problem. He insists that he’s still in control, but he rarely goes a day without sinking at least 12 bottles of beer.
I’m 45, my husband is 49 and our son has just turned 14.
When we first met he didn’t have any issues. In fact, he wasn’t much of a drinker at all.
Over the last few years he has started to drink more heavily.
At first, it was only a few glasses of wine on the weekend, but as time passed his consumption grew.
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Now he drinks with every opportunity and the more he drank, the less I recognised him. He becomes aggressive, unkind, and lazy.
I’ve tried my hardest to get through to him, but nothing changes.
These days he’s snappy and nasty with our son, who’s really starting to feel the effects. My husband never plays football with him now or takes any interest in his life.
I tried to protect him, but last week I got a phone call from the school to say he had broken down crying to his teacher.
He told her that he feels like he has lost his dad, and that he dreads coming home every day.
It broke my heart to hear how much this is hurting him. I can’t help but resent my husband.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m sorry to hear about this situation and I do understand how difficult this must be for you.
Clearly, your partner’s heavy drinking is a concern for you, especially as it’s impacting your son.
Sadly, you can’t stop him from drinking. He has to realise he has a problem and stop it himself. But you can connect him to the help he needs.
Contact Adfam (adfam.org.uk, 07442 137421) who can provide support for all of you.
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