DEAR DEIDRE: DURING an argument, my girlfriend turns into a nasty, vindictive monster.
She will say the most disgusting things to hurt me. How do I get her to be more respectful when we have different points of view?
She’s 29, I’m 32 and we have been dating for three years.
Before, she was so sweet and non-confrontational. But as we have grown more comfortable with each other, she has dropped the act.
Now I would say she is one of the most opinionated people I know.
We argue at least once a week over anything – from what’s going on in the news to dinner plans.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It does sound as though your girlfriend reacts in the heat of the moment, without thinking about the consequences.
In a calm moment, you need to explain how these arguments make you feel about her and your relationship.
She needs to understand this behaviour is abusive.
Ask her to consider counselling together.
Relate can help and its website has a section covering advice for those people who have trouble communicating. See relate.org.uk.
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