Labour of love! Mother, 20, reveals how her Tinder match supported her as she gave birth on their FOURTH date – and now they’re a couple
- Alyssa Hodges, 20, went into labour during her fourth date with Max Silvy, 25,
- Mother from Brisbane, Australia, joined Tinder while over six months pregnant
- Birth helped the couple to ‘bond’ and they are now raising son Ollie together
A man has been praised for supporting a woman throughout the birth of her son despite having only been on four dates.
Pregnant Alyssa Hodges, 20, from Brisbane, was due to go on her fourth date with Max Silvy, 25, when she want into labour in September last year.
She had been due to pick up civil servant Max from the airport when her water broke at eight months and she had to meet him in the hospital instead.
Alyssa’s contractions lasted for a week, but when she gave birth to her son, Ollie, Max was still by her side.
The couple claim the unlikely circumstances of their relationship has ‘bonded’ them because Max was supporting Alyssa during the early weeks of motherhood when she had the ‘baby blues’ – and they now plan to move in together.
Alyssa Hodges, 20, from Brisbane, and Max Silvy, 25, were only on their fourth date when Alyssa went into labour. Despite being such early days in their relationship, Max stayed by Alyssa’s side as she gave birth to her son, Ollie
The couple, pictured with Ollie, said that the unusually intense start to their relationship brought them closer together, and they’re planning to move in together
Although their families were initially apprehensive about the relationship developing at such an intense pace, both sides have now given their blessings to the couple.
Alyssa said: ‘I was about six and a half months pregnant when I went on Tinder, and I clearly stated that on my bio.
‘I didn’t want to lead anyone on, so I was being open and honest. I wanted them to know what they were getting into right off the bat.
‘Max travels a lot for work so we’d only seen each other three times before he ended up coming to my birth.
‘On the day I went into labour, I was meant to be picking Max up from the airport as he was coming back from a work trip.
‘That was the plan, but I ended up texting him, saying: “I’m so sorry, you’ll have to get a taxi. I’m going into labour”.
‘He hopped into a taxi when he got off the plane and came to the hospital and was there for me.’
Alyssa’s labour then went on for a week, with Max staying by her side the entire time.
‘My mum was also there supporting me. But she had a holiday, so she was here and there. Max was there for me through the whole labour and birth.
Max (pictured) got into a taxi from the airport to meet Alyssa at the hospital then stayed with her throughout labour and birth
Alyssa (pictured) said she and Max both knew they liked each other, but the birth was the peaking point of their relationship
What are the stages of labour?
The latent phase is when the cervix becomes soft and thin as it gets ready to open up for the baby to be born. According to the NHS, it can take many hours, or even days for established labour to start.
The cervix has to dilate to about 4cm and regular contractions open the cervix for the mother to be considered in established labour.
It usually takes eight to 12 hours from the start of established labour to being fully dilated.
The cervix needs to open about 10cm for the baby to pass through it.
Healthline adds that prodromal labour can cause many expectant mothers to go to hospital thinking that their labour has begun.
It can begin days, weeks or even a month before active labour begins and isn’t an indication for induction.
The painful contractions usually come and go in regular intervals.
Unlike Braxton-Hicks, the contractions can’t be eased by drinking water, eating or relaxing. The cervix can also slowly dilate or efface during prodromal labour.
‘The labour lasted on and off for about a week. I’d be sent home and come back into the hospital for a period of four to five days.
‘I was contracting for those days and Max was with me the whole time. The birth itself was about seven hours.’
To help Alyssa find her feet, Max took time off work to be with her as she cared for her newborn.
Alyssa said: ‘He took the week off afterwards when I had no-one to help me look after Ollie.
‘We both knew that we liked each other and had strong feelings for each other. But the birth was the peaking point of our relationship, it bonded us.
‘Looking back, I know it was the best decision ever. I’m so glad he was there.
‘Motherhood is a big adjustment for anybody, especially with me being younger. But Max taking a week off from work really helped.
Alyssa said Max (pictured together) set her up to succeed in motherhood as he carried her throughout a week of baby blues
‘I had the baby blues. I was really upset and didn’t know what I was doing.
‘I felt alone and Max carried me through that week. Every time I couldn’t do something, Max picked me up. He’s set me up to succeed in motherhood.
‘Even though I knew I liked him at the time, anything could have happened. I’d just been in a relationship where I thought it would last, and it didn’t.
‘So I did think ‘What if this doesn’t work out?’, but it has and it was the best decision. I don’t regret it.’
Alyssa’s pregnancy was not an issue to Max, although he admits that being there for the birth made him ‘anxious’.
Max said: ‘There was something that caught my eye about Alyssa. Normally I wouldn’t swipe right on a pregnant girl, but there was just something about her.
‘I wouldn’t say the experience was overwhelming but I was anxious. I hadn’t prepared mentally the way Alyssa had, so coming in late [like I did] was a rapid process.
Alyssa (pictured) said her mother was ‘very hesitant’ about Max joining her at the birth of Ollie and told her to think carefully
‘Anxiety was the biggest thing. There were so many unknowns, so many things that I didn’t know about becoming a dad.
‘There’s a lot of learning that comes with being a new dad, but me and Ollie are bonding quite well.’
Alyssa says her mum was initially unsure about the idea of Max being with her while she was giving birth and urged her to think carefully about it.
Alyssa said: ‘My family were taken aback by our relationship. When I told my mum that Max was with me at the hospital, she was very hesitant about it.
‘She was saying ‘What if you guys break up?’. She didn’t understand why anybody would want to be with someone who was pregnant and take such a big responsibility on.
‘She told me I needed to think carefully about it. But at the same time, she was saying Max was a lovely guy and she hoped it’d work out for us.’
Alyssa said social media users have been curious to know where she met Max and have asked if he has a brother. Pictured: Alyssa and Max with Ollie
Since sharing their story on TikTok, Alyssa has been inundated with comments from women demanding to know how she found a man like Max.
Alyssa said: ‘On TikTok, everybody is asking if Max has a brother, calling him ‘man of the year’ and saying we were the cutest little family. It was a great reaction.
‘These days, there are a lot of unfortunate stories about men who take off when the woman becomes pregnant.
‘Then here’s someone who comes in whilst you’re pregnant and is very actively involved in raising the child. It’s unheard of. I’m very lucky.’
Since having Ollie, the couple have been raising him together with plans to move in together in the near future.
Alyssa said: ‘I think [being there for the birth] helped Max’s relationship with Ollie too, as he was able to see him come into the world.
‘He already plays such an important role in Ollie’s life, but it really helps that he was there.
TikTok users have shown their support for the couple, with one writing: ‘hope you have many years together’
‘We’re in the process of moving in together and we’re very excited. We only lived 20 minutes apart so we’d take turns being at each other’s houses.
‘Ollie loves Max so much. There’ll be times where he won’t want me, he’ll want Max. He’ll be crying and the minute Max takes him, he’s happy and smiling. Max is definitely the favourite.’
Alyssa uploaded a video telling the story of her labour and received hundreds of comments praising Max.
One TikTok user wrote: ‘Does Max have a brother by any chance?’
Another commenter said: ‘That’s a man! What a keeper!! I hope you have many years together.’
A third user commented: ‘So so special. What an amazing man. Wish he was my dad.’
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