DEAR DEIDRE: I STAY late at work to have sex with my boss – then I go home and do it all again with my girlfriend.

I’m a student and work part-time in a cocktail bar. I’m a guy of 24 with a partner who is 22.

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During lockdown I learned how to mix cocktails and then practised throwing the bottles around in my house-share.

All my mates loved it, and it was so easy to walk into a job at a new bar in town.

My boss is 30. She’s sassy and confident with the punters and although I always fancied her, I didn’t think it was an option.

We had a night when the power went off during a storm and the customers had to leave.

She asked me if I wanted a drink and opened an expensive bottle of red. For the first time, we sat down together and chatted.

Then she leaned over to wipe glitter from my cheek that had come off some decorations and I thought she was going to kiss me.

So I pulled her to me and that was it — we kissed.

She laughed afterwards and said: “Well, I wasn’t expecting that. It was nice.”

I kissed her again and she took my hand and we went into the staff room and had sex.

She was great, so experienced, and took control, knowing exactly how to please a man.

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My girlfriend is lovely too but I’m enjoying the excitement of my secret work tryst.

I never thought I’d cheat on her but she’s studying all the time and so much of the passion has gone out of our relationship.

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DEIDRE SAYS: That is no excuse to cheat. You’ll end up losing your girlfriend and could end up losing the job you love too if this gets out of hand.

Unless you are both free agents, it is always best to keep your working life professional because it is bound to bring up complications.

You are using this woman for casual sex while your girlfriend is busy. It’s not fair on either of them.

Wouldn’t you feel better about yourself if you put your energies into looking after your girlfriend and supporting her while she is studying?

You could plan an amazing romantic weekend away for you both when her exams are over, which will show her how much you are there for her.

Explain to your boss you want to remain focused on work and that your trips down to the staff room are over.

My support pack called Ending A Relationship will help you get the message across to her.

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