DEAR DEIDRE: I AM in a wonderful relationship but the sex for me is rubbish. I can’t climax when I’m intimate with my girlfriend.
We are both 41.
I was single for years, so I’m not very experienced.
She says that our sex life is fine and she doesn’t have a problem with the fact that I have to find another way to climax, but I feel I’m missing out on something.
I heard Viagra might help so I talked to my GP, but he said it doesn’t help men to orgasm.
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I’ve tried all sorts of things that I’ve read about online and nothing seems to work.
Can you please help?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Of course. This is an easy thing to sort out with some time, patience and practice.
My guess is that sex was a taboo subject for you growing up, leaving you with long-term inhibitions.
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