DEAR DEIDRE: A FALSE accusation of inappropriate behaviour has left me fearing for my career and my future.
My face doesn’t fit because I’m a gay man, so I think colleagues want me out.
I’m 35 and work with vulnerable young people.
A male colleague said I touched him and made a suggestive comment, but that’s a lie.
Now I’m terrified I’ll lose my job and everything I’ve worked for. I can’t sleep and, sometimes, I feel suicidal.
I’m suspended from work on full pay, awaiting the disciplinary process. To me it feels like a foregone conclusion – it’s my colleague’s word against mine – how can I prove my I’ve done nothing wrong?
I love my job and feel it’s my vocation.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m sorry. Being falsely accused of inappropriate behaviour is bad enough but the added suggestion of discrimination will make this even harder to process.
Whatever happens, please don’t feel your life is over.
Focus on getting good advice and support to help you through this. If you’re feeling suicidal, contact Samaritans (samaritans.org, 116 123) or text SHOUT to 85258 and make an appointment with your GP to discuss your depression.
Unfortunately, your organisation is duty bound to follow procedures and investigate accusations.
You need to feel someone is on your side. Get free, confidential workplace advice and support from Acas (acas.org.uk, 0300 123 1100).
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