DEAR DEIDRE: I AM convinced my best pal won’t be happy with how I live my life until I’m her clone.
She’s only trying to be helpful, but it’s like she can’t trust me to do anything right
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We have been friends since we were 12. We’re now 33.
I’m a single mum to four kids. My abusive ex left four years ago. I’m juggling solo parenting, a full-time job and two elderly parents – but she just says: “Get it together.”
She will walk into my house and criticise everything – from the way the sofa cushions are laid out, to how I’ve stacked the dishwasher.
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Last week she told me, in front of our friends at the school gate, that my son had gone to school with a dirty jumper two days in a row.
How do I tell her that her “support” is more like a slap in the face?
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DEIDRE SAYS: This says far more about her than it does about you.
Perhaps she fears that other people think she’s failing and is pointing out the things she worries about.
Have a frank conversation with her. Explain how critical comments make you feel and you’d like them to stop.
I’m sending you my support pack Standing Up For Yourself to help.
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