DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife had sex with two of her exes at the same time with my permission, but I’m furious because she had a repeat session without me.
She has always been very supportive of my kinks and has invited her female friends into our bedroom for threesomes.
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So when she shared her fantasy — that she wanted to have sex with two different men while I watched — I agreed.
I’m 45 and she is 43. This is my second marriage.
We arranged for her two exes to come over — I didn’t mind as they had been more flings than proper relationships and we all had a great time.
My wife got to experience her dream and she was really happy with the way things turned out — as was I.
It wasn’t my fantasy but I enjoyed being able to give her what she wanted.
That night one of her exes slept in our bed with my wife wedged in the middle and the other ex slept in the box bedroom next door.
The next morning when I woke up, I realised I was the only one in the bed.
Then I heard giggling and groaning coming from the box bedroom.
When I walked in they were having another session, only I hadn’t been invited.
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She called me in and asked me to join in but I wasn’t in the mood by then and was confused and angry.
She can’t see what she has done wrong and explained that she didn’t want to wake me.
She said they were only doing what they had done the night before.
But there was a major difference; I wasn’t included and we promised that we would always share our kinks with each other.
If she could do this, it made me wonder what else she has done behind my back.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Some couples who are very secure in their relationships do manage to open up their sex lives to other people successfully but they always stick to their own code.
Your wife wasn’t trying to go behind your back, but by not actively involving you she has made you question her and in turn the strength of your relationship.
It would be far better to talk and think about your fantasies together, rather than act them out.
As you are finding out, you are taking a risk involving others in your sex life. Inviting others in opens up your relationship to jealousy and upset.
If you are adamant you still want to involve others you both need to agree to be respectful of the other’s boundaries.
I’m sending you my support pack Threesomes, which will help you both consider the risks you are taking by involving others in your relationship.
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