Dating is a total minefield and finding someone who is on the same wavelength as you can feel like looking for a needle in a haystack.
One woman says she’s happy with her life and is looking for someone to share it with and have a family.
The only issue is, when she goes on dates the men she meets act way too keen and "obsessed" with her which is a turn off.
Taking to Mumsnet to ask why this always happens to her, she wrote: "This is going to sound vain. Could never admit this IRL.
"Every man I meet for a date ends up obsessing over me. Every man bar one, to be precise. I have dated a lot over the last year.
"I am fed up. I’m not some supermodel! Im 34, generally attractive I guess, but nothing out of the ordinary.
"I am pretty good at conversation and can engage with people quite quickly. I have a good job and my own life and friends, own home.
"I like my own space but desperately want to settle down and have a family".
The woman explained that people she meets are always desperate to see her again, then want to make it exclusive fast – mentioning that she doesn’t sleep with them.
"I feel fed up. Just want to meet a sensible, nice man who I am also into."
Her post sparked some fiery debate on why this is, with some people criticising her for assuming people are "obsessed".
One said the reason must be because she didn’t sleep with them, making a snide remark: "It has to be that, because there is no reason that THIRTY men in the space of 12 months would be utterly desperate to keep dating you. There really isn’t."
Another wrote: "You’re right, it does sound a bit vain".
Others thought it is unfair to slam the woman for simply saying she is she is attractive and doesn’t like how these men act.
"Great camaraderie," one said with a sarcastic emoji.
People suggested that perhaps men feel so connected with her because she is approachable and good at making conversation, with women with similar personality traits saying the same thing happens to them.
Some suggested that these just aren’t the guys for her: "You’ve probably just not met the right one. I was like this, until I met my partner and suddenly it wasn’t annoying".
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