Sex with work colleague was worth the year's wait but it's wrong as we're both involved

A year had passed since we first kissed with not so much as a touch of his hands in between. It was so worth the wait.

We both work in PR. I’m 31 and he’s 28. He has two daughters but at least I don’t have any children to worry about.

I’ll never forget that amazing first kiss.

It was a Friday, our boss was away and a few of us went for lunchtime drinks. Later, my colleague and I went outside for a smoke.

We stood in the sunshine enjoying the break and smiling at each other.

That’s when I realised I fancied him loads. I started flirting and then he moved in for the kiss.

We had to go back to our desks after that but just as we entered our office he turned round and kissed me again. I couldn’t believe that he’d kissed me like that, where the whole team could see.

He knew my boyfriend was ­living with me and I knew that he wasn’t free.

Still, there was no harm in us flirting, I thought, and nothing more happened between us — until now.

About two weeks ago a bunch of us went out for lunch. The others were leaving to get back to work when he asked me to stay a bit longer and ordered more wine.

He said he was thinking of leaving the firm and I felt really choked. I heard myself pleading, “Don’t go!”

We didn’t go back to the office that day, we went to a nearby hotel and had fabulous sex — and then last night we did it again.

We spend our time texting and planning to meet. I know it’s wrong but we can’t help ourselves.

He says he’s not happy at home with the mum of his kids and I’m desperately bored with my partner these days.

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DEIDRE SAYS: You are making excuses. You must take control.

Having sex on the quiet is totally wrong.

Your reputation will plummet at work and both your relationships may go up in smoke.

If you’re bored with your boyfriend then make a decision to put in more effort or else let him go.

If your heart isn’t in it then you shouldn’t be wasting his time.

Your lover has his children to think of. You could say that’s none of your business but don’t close your eyes to the fact that they’re not just sweet little photographs in his wallet.

They’re real little children who really exist.

Even if you wind up with your lover one day, his children will always be part of the deal. Have you asked yourself if you’re ready for that?

Or, are you ready for being alone if your lover decides he’s going to stay put?

My e-leaflet Your Lover Not Free might offer helpful advice.


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