DEAR DEIDRE: THE affair my wife said had finished a year ago has only just ended, it turns out.
My head tells me to stay for the kids’ sake but my heart doesn’t feel it.
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She swore the fling was a mistake when I found their messages last year. I forgave her and we moved on.
She is 38, I’m 41. It is hard to find time for one another with our kids and jobs.
Last weekend she dropped the bombshell that the affair had continued but insisted it was finally over for good. I said: “It was hardly a mistake then.”
She got angry and made me feel like I am the problem. She suggested we split up. I face an impossible decision.
DEIDRE SAYS: It is hardly surprising you feel frustrated at being duped all this time. She is acting angrily in self-defence.
Best both count to ten and have some couple’s counselling to talk it all over in a safe place.
Maybe you can still save your marriage – it sounds like that is what you both really want – and you can certainly still be a good dad.
My e-leaflet Cheating – Can You Get Over It? explains where to find help.
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