A Shared Love of Art, Architecture and the Italian Spritz

Aaron Michael Wile and Nicholas Gregory Potts were married Aug. 24 in the Othmer Library at the Brooklyn Historical Society in Brooklyn Heights. David Pullins, a friend of the couple who joined American Marriage Ministries for the event, officiated.

Dr. Wile (left), 33, is an associate curator in the Department of French Paintings at the National Gallery of Art in Washington. He was previously a postdoctoral fellow in the Society of Fellows in the Humanities at the University of Southern California. He graduated magna cum laude from Haverford College and holds both a master’s degree and a Ph.D. in history of art and architecture from Harvard.

Dr. Wile is the son of Dr. Lawrence Wile of Bloomfield, Conn., and the late Jacqueline Bucior Wile. He is also the stepson of Gerri Gailin. His father is a retired psychiatrist who had a private practice in Stafford Springs, Conn. He is also president of the Chaikin-Wile Foundation, a family foundation centered around Jewish causes and scientific research.

Mr. Potts, 39, is an architect at NBBJ, an architectural firm in Seattle and New York. He graduated from the University of Minnesota and received two master’s degrees, one in architecture from the University of Minnesota, and the other in urban design from Harvard.

He is a son of Heidi Rasmussen Potts and Gregory E. Potts of Hubertus, Wis. Mr. Potts’s father is the president and chief executive of Aztalan Engineering in Lake Mills, Wis. His mother, the former principal of Saint Matthew School, an elementary school in Green Bay, is now a stay-at-home parent.

Having not logged into OkCupid for several months, Mr. Potts opened the app on Oct. 2 2012, while spending a lonely semester in Rotterdam, the Netherlands. After sifting through about 30 messages without reading a single one, he found one that Mr. Wile had sent three months earlier.

“I actually found the message on my birthday and wrote back immediately,” Mr. Potts said. “It turned out to be quite a wonderful gift.”

Dr. Wile had enjoyed Mr. Potts’s answer to a question posed on the OkCupid site that asked what three things he would want if he were stranded on a desert island. Mr. Potts wrote “Campari, sparkling wine and sparkling water — to make myself an Italian spritz.”

They began exchanging messages, and soon bonded over art and architecture, including a mutual fascination with the artist Gian Lorenzo Bernini's failed 1665 visit to Paris to design the east front of the Louvre. A first date was arranged in December 2012 at a pizzeria in Cambridge, Mass.

“We had a great time, and I felt that I had finally met someone who had the same interests as me,” Dr. Wile said. “He was so smart and intense, and he had a great beard.”

Two weeks later, in January 2013, Dr. Wile moved to Paris to research his dissertation. “I was very sad that he was leaving,” Mr. Potts said. “At that point, we kept our expectations in check.”

But three months later, when Mr. Potts visited Dr. Wile in Paris, expectations changed. “We spent the week going to different museums and restaurants and Nick was just so much fun to be with,” Dr. Wile said. “It just felt right.”

After receiving a master’s degree from Harvard in May 2013, Mr. Potts returned to Rotterdam for an internship with the Office for Metropolitan Architecture, and the couple spent weekends exploring art and architecture across Europe.

In December 2013, Mr. Potts moved to New York, and Dr. Wile followed him in summer 2014. (The couple are now planning to move to Washington.)

“In terms of art and architecture and all of its museums, New York is one of the greatest cities in the world,” Mr. Wile said. “And there’s been no greater feeling than having seen all of it with Nick.”

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