Couple charge £100 an hour to ‘bring sexual fantasies to life’ using erotic massage – but insist they aren’t prostitutes – The Sun

THIS couple promise to bring your sexual fantasies to life, but it will cost you £100 a day.

Natalia Virdee and her Welsh partner Joshua Sleith, refer to themselves as sex workers, but not in the conventional sense.

The pair teach adults what they call “real sex education” inspired by Eastern spiritual practices.

Maths graduate Joshua, who’s 27 and originally from Anglesey, gives his clients “erotic and Tantric massage” from a garden studio in their home in the Devon seaside resort of Torquay.

The couple, who are also yoga teachers, want to see more openness about sex and talk frankly about what they do.

As well as massage and helping people act out their sexual fantasies, Joshua offers what he calls a surrogacy service, when he becomes a companion to men who might be hiding their sexuality.

Meanwhile Natalia, who’s 41 and a former quantity surveyor with a masters degree in maths, coaches couples, often pensioners, to improve their sex lives using Tantric principles.

Tantra is an ancient practice thought to have been in existence for over 5,000 years.

It means “the weaving and expansion of energy”, and the teachings of Tantra were initially not focused on sexuality but were more about mastering and understanding our own energy, with amazing sex a happy by-product.

Joshua gave up his post-graduate job in insurance before running yoga courses then becoming a sex worker.

“I decided I didn’t like the idea of working behind a desk for the rest of my life so I quit,” he says.

It could be a session purely on spanking, it could be a session on wax play or ice

After going to a “kinky workshop,” and learning more about massage, he’s been in this business for over two years.

Explaining what happens during a Tantric massage he says: “I think that each and every practitioner, it means something different, because it’s based on their own experience and their education.

“To me, when I’m offering someone a Tantric massage, that is exploring what their body is capable of in terms of sensations and pleasure, focusing on ‘how can my body perceive pleasure, and how can I enjoy it?’

“Sometimes people take a spiritual angle within that, and I’ll happily facilitate it within a session, but sometimes that’s not the case, and I’m happy with that as well.

“Pleasure can be sexual or it can be platonic.”

Natalia adds, “You can contrast that with Christianity, for example, where you see the body as sinful, you punish the body, you achieve enlightment through spiritual work or prayer, but you leave the body behind all together… it’s not like that at all in Tantric texts.

“Essentially, as you awaken the body’s energies, you can achieve enlightenment, and when the practitioner is skilled in energy work, they can help the client open new doors.”

Over 90 per cent of Joshua’s clients are men, with a typical age range between mid-30s to people in their 70s.

He charges £100 an hour, and tells me about the boundaries he sets for himself.

“I’m not naked, I don’t use my body apart from my hands and perhaps my elbows sometimes,” he says.

People need this information, because at the moment, because nobody talks about it, people learn about sex from porn and I think that does incredible amounts of damage to young people, and old people

“One of the best tools I introduce to people is communication, just expressing how you are or what you want in the moment, and that blows people’s minds, being radically honest.”

He says the vast majority of his massage clients come to him for some sort of sexual pleasure.

“I think that depends on your definition of sexual element,” he adds.

“There was a client who liked to have his arms above his head, then I would sit on his arms and tickle him for an hour, that was the whole session.

“To me, that wasn’t sexual at all. I don’t get sexual pleasure from my clients anyway, but to him, that was very sexual.”

He added: “Normally it starts with some light touch, nothing in particular, just hands running around everywhere and then the client sinking into that touch, from there it goes to whatever is agreed.

"It could be a session purely on spanking, it could be a session on wax play or ice. Wax play is when you drip wax on different parts of the body.”

His “surrogacy” service is different.

What is Tantric sex?

Tantric sex is an ancient Hindu practice that dates back more than 5,000 years.

The word 'tantra' literally means the weaving and expansion of energy and it sees couples enjoy a slow form of sex in order to have powerful orgasms.

Couples often say that the practice heightens their emotions and gives them a better mind and body connection to each other.

Tantric sex advocates say it gives you a better understanding of your body as well as of the world around you.

Tantric sex fans say not only is it an enjoyable practice but there are also benefits to it.

Experts say that one of the main benefits is that the practice gives couples a deep sense of intimacy, meaning their relationships become stronger and happier.

Another reported benefit is that it helps partners really love, honour and respect each other as the focus is on pleasuring one another.

While the main benefit seems to be people saying the practice gives the longer and more powerful orgasms.

 

“It’s like a temporary partner, like an escort but without sex,” he explains.

“We might have meal together, we might watch some TV, have a general catch-up about his, or their, lives.

“Without a doubt, yes, that’s the main reason, because they don’t have someone in their lives they have that connection with, that intimacy with.

“And because I can talk about things quite openly, so can they, quite quickly,” he adds.

He says he often deals with men who come to him because they don’t feel they can express their sexuality.

“I’ve had people who can only express their genuine sexuality in the space I offer,” he continues.

“Their best friends don’t know, their wives, their kids.

“That tells me somebody is not living as their authentic self, and I think society needs to change.”

The couple describe themselves as sex workers but Natalia contends it isn’t prostitution.

It’s like grown-up sex education, without shame, without embarrassment, just complete honesty and openness

“A prostitute is someone who offers penetrative sex,” Natalia says.

“Even when I offered touch and sexual touch, I was never naked in the session and the touch was one-way only, from me to the client, and never from the client to me,” she explains.

Joshua is no longer in contact with his family, and thinks his parents would disapprove of what he does.

But, he says, most people are interested in what they do, and he hasn’t had any negative reactions.

Sometimes, though, acquaintances haven’t known how to respond.

“When I say I’m a sex worker, and there’s just silence, nothing comes back and then maybe suddenly they’ll change the conversation to something else,” he says.

“Generally that person doesn’t stay in my friendship circle.”

We all have a lot more to learn about sex, they say.

“People need this information, because at the moment, because nobody talks about it, people learn about sex from porn and I think that does incredible amounts of damage to young people, and old people,” Natalia says.

 

Joshua adds: “You have sex education in school, which is, ‘Don’t rape, use a condom, and this is what pregnancy is’.

“What we do, is real sex education. I do it practically, and Natalia does it verbally.

“It’s like grown-up sex education, without shame, without embarrassment, just complete honesty and openness.”

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